The cheating bitch
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wa2fastcamaro;223507 wrote:
your guys posts are mildly interesting. Yesterday was a very tough day, talked to a lot of people I know and had help through it. My wife checked herself into Prairie last night, thats her other home it seems like, as she has been there 5 times since we have been together. And yes she is crazy, she is supposed to be on medication because she gets terrible mood swings. I knew I was marrying a crazy girl but I always thought it was under control and she seemed like it was fine. But I guess not. I talked to her dad yesterday too, he has been dealing with crap like this since she was 10 years old, I am surprised she hasn't driving her family crazy yet.She told me twice yesterday that she cannot live without me, and has no reason to live if I leave her. She actually overdosed on sleeping pills yesterday, but I guess they were not strong enough to do much. At least thats what one of her friends told me.
SHe admits I never dd anything wrong, and she has a problem she couldn't stop, but she could never bring herself to tell me until almost 2 years after it started. Maybe things would have been fixable years ago, but now I am not sure. When someone you love with all your heart hurts you in the worst way, I don't see how you could ever feel the same way about them. I don't even think I could look at her the same anymore.
Well I am going to work, hopefully I can actually get work done.
Looking at this from the blunt, outside point of view:
She fucked around and told you.
She has stated she doesn't intend to change her habits.
You tell her to leave.
She checks into Prairie and allegedly overdoses.
She says she is wrong but can't stop fucking other guys.
She wants another chance after she blew your trust and realizes she is now kicked to the curb.Funny how when the shit hits the fan, she then thinks it is wrong. Not once in the 2 years did she say anything. I mean, if she would have come to you after 1 time and said "I'm sorry, but I royally fucked up and slept w/ a guy" then maybe, MAYBE you give her a second chance...but not after she has been doing it for this long.
If you take her back, I'll personally kick your ass.
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It puts you in a shitty situation, but you can't take her back especially after that stuff. She may be using it to try and get you back, or she may actually feel that way, but if you take her back, she will continue what she is doing and know that she can control you. She is responsible for herself and you have no control over her and what she does, get going on the divorce and never look back. Im sorry man.
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from a girls perspective here.. i agree 100% with everyone else in saying do NOT take her back. it could've been fixable a long time ago, but her realization that she royally fucked up now after she's been doing it for this long is just ridiculous. i'd really like to know whats going on in her mind at the moment...
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The part the gets me is that she doesn't want to change her ways, doesn't want to be intimate with you, and wants to remain married.
If you take her back, she will know she can do pretty much whatever she wants with who ever she wants.
Also, she is starved for attention right now, don't buy into the almost overdosing BS. She is trying to flip this on you. She is trying to make YOU feel bad for what SHE did. She is saying you are killing her by not staying with her, which is complete bullshit.
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inspector01;223512 wrote:
get going on the divorce and never look back. Im sorry man.If you do look back make sure it's only to see what color/shape/texture the shit you left on her face was.
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Its a difficult situation. I love her more than anything in the world, and I believe she feels the same but, under the circumstances that things happened, I can no longer love, care or even look at her the same any more. If you guys actually knew the whole situation and what both of us have been through over the last 7+ years, you would also be confused.
I want to keep her in my life, but I know it will ruin my life. So its hard to do this. I am going to stand my ground though and not let her get by with this. Under no circumstances will she be living in my house again. I told her separation is the only way to make this work. What I am going to do though is keep her in my life but not as a wife or a girlfriend, maybe one day she'll get her shit straight and we could end up back together, or maybe not. But I am sick of being in the middle of this shit.
I am going to visit her tonight and talk things out, let her know all of what I feel and my plan for the future. It could go good and she might agree or she could go nuts and end up in a straight jacket. Hard to say.
All I know is this is the hardest most stressful position I have ever been in my life, and I have been through some really bad shit. I thank you guys for the advice and support, the rude and cruel comments about her were a bit much, but since you guys don't know her, I can see why you would say them. I want to make this easy and peaceful, not difficult and messy.
I cannot afford a lawyer, as I am so far in debt at the time that I cam barely afford to live, so I'll have to find a way to resolve this without.
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I can sit here on my high horse and agree with everyone else in saying not to take her back. But ultimately, it's your life and your decision. The reason I'm even typing this is that I detected a little bit of reluctance in booting her to the curb from your 2nd to last post. I do know that love is a powerfull thing and can overcome ALOT of problems. It would be in your best interest to leave but, I can understand if you don't. But also take this into consideration, if you do go back to her.... the friends that are here to help you now may not be if and when she pulls this again.
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weshole;223535 wrote:
I can sit here on my high horse and agree with everyone else in saying not to take her back. But ultimately, it's your life and your decision. The reason I'm even typing this is that I detected a little bit of reluctance in booting her to the curb from your 2nd to last post. I do know that love is a powerfull thing and can overcome ALOT of problems. It would be in your best interest to leave but, I can understand if you don't. But also take this into consideration, if you do go back to her.... the friends that are here to help you now may not be if and when she pulls this again.X2 very well put
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weshole;223535 wrote:
I can sit here on my high horse and agree with everyone else in saying not to take her back. But ultimately, it's your life and your decision. The reason I'm even typing this is that I detected a little bit of reluctance in booting her to the curb from your 2nd to last post. I do know that love is a powerfull thing and can overcome ALOT of problems. It would be in your best interest to leave but, I can understand if you don't. But also take this into consideration, if you do go back to her.... the friends that are here to help you now may not be if and when she pulls this again.couldn't have said it any better.....
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Love is a difficult thing to understand sometimes. Personally i would end the relationship permanently. Its hard not to look back at 7 years of your life with another. But look at it thisway, it is not you that cheated (more than once), it was her choice. whatever you do, seperate yourself from the pain,(her). Clear your mind, and let things settle, before you make any decesion one way or the other. Keep your mind busy, hang out with friends and family. I hope everything woeks out for you man, i watched my brother go through a very similar situation, its hard.
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SmitEvo;223540 wrote:
Cleaned the inappropriate comments out....come on guys have some respect.He posted in RYM about how he wanted to choke her....since when do we moderate RYM?
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tjamz;223631 wrote:
He posted in RYM about how he wanted to choke her....since when do we moderate RYM?
Since people were asking for nudes or doing crazy sex acts to her....I really dont care what anybody thinks. He is hurt right now and that is the last thing he wants to hear. -
i agree with smit, im sure its a emotional tug of war.
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SmitEvo;223665 wrote:
Since people were asking for nudes or doing crazy sex acts to her....I really dont care what anybody thinks. He is hurt right now and that is the last thing he wants to hear.Asking for nudes...I can see deleting. That is insult to injury IMO. I still stand by my suggestions (not going to repeat them) on payback.
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harm;223505 wrote:
lol.. thanks for taking that exactly the way i meant it.. just more concerned for a guy in a shitty situation than i am for the make-it-worse-with-gossip side of it.i'm gonna leave the 'like you would do anything' comment for now, though, time for work.
another +1 for what colin said.
Sure dude, If you think that I was gossiping. I was asking if he knew. I didnt care to know their names. And to you doing anything, Lawlz.
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