Question..
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Think of an ex like selling a car. If you sell a car to somebody it's no longer yours, tomorrow or a year from know, and if for some crazy reason you decide to buy it back you know goddamn well it's going to have a hell of a lot more miles on it than when you had it the first time.
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Link;228255 wrote:
An Ex is the past. In life, are you not supposed to move foward and forget the past? Meaning leave the past behind, forget about it, its done.. time to move foward in a new direction?Or am I misunderstanding? Someone correct me if I am wrong.
It is hard to leave some things behind, mostly talking about "scars" they have left you....IMO
there is no way i could look at one certain Ex as a friend ever again... no matter what amount of time past, just from the shit she pulled
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im pretty sure i almost hate all of me ex's. almost tho, dont forget the almost
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That's the situation I'm in...
My girls ex (we are talking like HS ex.. but still, an ex is an ex), wants to hang out with her and when she asked me about it, I said you make your own decision and then i'll bitch where bitching is needed.
THEN he proceeds to ask if they can hang out at my girls apartment. This is where I have a HUGE fucking problem with it.
Even if it's a highschool EX, this is still bullshit, correct?
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I'm working on the whole 'trust' issue, and to be honest, it's really hard.
The only time we have arguments, is when it comes to her god damn EX's either A. texting her like crazy and she doesnt tell them to STFU; B. She doesn't take my advice on getting them to STFU; C. shit like this happens.
99.9% of are arguments come from something about her Ex's. Now if she would GIVE UP THE FUCKING PAST, everything would be fantastic! but no.. someone cant realize that, and that's where my problem is.
do i tell her to piss off or what?
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Whoa though...she knew these people BEFORE you. Let her hang out with whoever she wants and don't worry about anything until there IS a problem. At that point, dismiss. Restricting a girl/guy by telling them who they can/can't hang out with is the worst thing you can do to yourself and to a relationship. If you think YOU can prevent something happening, then it will happen. Just let things unfold as they should. Either way, you'll learn a lot about yourself and her.
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PSiedTSi;228278 wrote:
Whoa though...she knew these people BEFORE you. Let her hang out with whoever she wants and don't worry about anything until there IS a problem. At that point, dismiss. Restricting a girl/guy by telling them who they can/can't hang out with is the worst thing you can do to yourself and to a relationship. If you think YOU can prevent something happening, then it will happen. Just let things unfold as they should. Either way, you'll learn a lot about yourself and her.Good God!!! Actual words of wisdom from Staiger? Who would of thunk it?
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I'd say voice your concerns, but tell her that you trust her and that she won't do anything to hurt you. If you can't do that, your relationship will never last.
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Somewhere out there, there is a woman that is committed enough to you and to your relationship that she won't do anything that could make you feel uneasy or put herself in a situation where problems are possible.
You should ask her why she wants to hang out with her ex boyfriend.
If her ex boyfirend is single or otherwise known to play, its a big warning sign that that's what he's up to. If she doens't see this, she needs to get educated quick. If she doesn't care, she's too immature to become emotionally invested in. Explain and walk.
There are two reasons a guy will want to hang out with an ex.
- 1 - no-strings-attached-sex
- 2- to rub your current girlfriend in your ex's face
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