Question..
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That's the situation I'm in...
My girls ex (we are talking like HS ex.. but still, an ex is an ex), wants to hang out with her and when she asked me about it, I said you make your own decision and then i'll bitch where bitching is needed.
THEN he proceeds to ask if they can hang out at my girls apartment. This is where I have a HUGE fucking problem with it.
Even if it's a highschool EX, this is still bullshit, correct?
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I'm working on the whole 'trust' issue, and to be honest, it's really hard.
The only time we have arguments, is when it comes to her god damn EX's either A. texting her like crazy and she doesnt tell them to STFU; B. She doesn't take my advice on getting them to STFU; C. shit like this happens.
99.9% of are arguments come from something about her Ex's. Now if she would GIVE UP THE FUCKING PAST, everything would be fantastic! but no.. someone cant realize that, and that's where my problem is.
do i tell her to piss off or what?
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Whoa though...she knew these people BEFORE you. Let her hang out with whoever she wants and don't worry about anything until there IS a problem. At that point, dismiss. Restricting a girl/guy by telling them who they can/can't hang out with is the worst thing you can do to yourself and to a relationship. If you think YOU can prevent something happening, then it will happen. Just let things unfold as they should. Either way, you'll learn a lot about yourself and her.
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PSiedTSi;228278 wrote:
Whoa though...she knew these people BEFORE you. Let her hang out with whoever she wants and don't worry about anything until there IS a problem. At that point, dismiss. Restricting a girl/guy by telling them who they can/can't hang out with is the worst thing you can do to yourself and to a relationship. If you think YOU can prevent something happening, then it will happen. Just let things unfold as they should. Either way, you'll learn a lot about yourself and her.Good God!!! Actual words of wisdom from Staiger? Who would of thunk it?
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I'd say voice your concerns, but tell her that you trust her and that she won't do anything to hurt you. If you can't do that, your relationship will never last.
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Somewhere out there, there is a woman that is committed enough to you and to your relationship that she won't do anything that could make you feel uneasy or put herself in a situation where problems are possible.
You should ask her why she wants to hang out with her ex boyfriend.
If her ex boyfirend is single or otherwise known to play, its a big warning sign that that's what he's up to. If she doens't see this, she needs to get educated quick. If she doesn't care, she's too immature to become emotionally invested in. Explain and walk.
There are two reasons a guy will want to hang out with an ex.
- 1 - no-strings-attached-sex
- 2- to rub your current girlfriend in your ex's face
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I disagree. I've had many an ex that I hung out with after we broke up and can honestly say that I never once had any thought of hanging out just to get some pussy with them (ok....there were some that I did hang out with for that reason, but never after they started seeing someone else)
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Talked to her about it, and I said she could do whatever she wanted and I wasn't going to hold her from it. I stated that if anything happened from this point on out, it's over and i'll take my shit and leave.
We agreed.. So hopefully this is a step in the right direction. Fuckin christ I hate relationships haha.
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If she wants to hang out with her ex's I say leave right away just my .02 cents Good Luck, not sure why she would even bring it up unless she has some what of an interest in him still
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He has a GF. I know the kid.. used to be a good friend of mine until he started hangin' out with the fags I hated. When they broke up, they didnt talk for a couple years, now they are just friends.
I told her she can do whatever she wants and I'm not gunna stop her, but I told her she best use her head or she will find herself single.
So we'll see what happens.. only time will tell.
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And it does, but I've decided to suck it up, deal with it for now, see what happens, and go from there.
Btw, this kid is 20, and his dating a girl thats like 17 now. Can't even get ne action... hence another reason i'm on the fearful side of things.. but I've given up caring. If something happens, she'll be single, and he'll be in the dentist's office having some new teeth installed in his face. :icon_salut:
This can be closed/deleted or whatever. No longer needs to be up.
Thanks for all of your input. I appreciate the answers and not having my thread full of the bullshit that usually happens :icon_cheers:
Thanks again!
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per OP's request....thread closed
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